jakestott wrote:Do you guys have any suggestions on how to overcome my shyness? I've suffered with shyness all my life, and maybe it's part of who i am, but i want to be more comfortable when in social situations. I have tried socializing at clubs (well once or twice) and didn't really get anything from it. I am too scared to actually walk up to a person and start a conversation, the only time i feel comfortable is when i am around my parents, sister and a few friends. I tried counselling, but it's hasn't had any effect on me really, and to be honest, it was like being back at Primary school, having to colour in some shit and write a postcard to yourself, fuck that. At school, the teachers all thought i had Autism, and my sister had to explain to them, that i didn't and was just a shy person. Fucking hated it when teachers treated you differently, or spoke in the tone of voice, like you were speaking to an old lady who had hearing trouble.
Thank fuck for the internet! It allows me to express my feelings

. I love Facebook too, even though a lot of the stuff i say on there, you wouldn't catch me saying in reality haha (not because it's rude or anything, just i haven't got the guts).
I can relate to the shyness part.
Especially when I was a kid, I was extremely shy, probably due to the fact that I was a very sensitive kid. Over the years, I managed to control my shyness and most people couldn't even guess I am a shy person underneath.
What helped me, is to think a lot of times, what the fuck, what can happen? People can blow me off, oh yes, but that doesn't mean the end of the world is near. Just don't think so much about other people, or how they possibly could react, just think of yourself as a super important person. Who doesn't want to talk to you?? The're nuts if they don't want to. Just say what you want to say, just lift your foot from the brakes, let it go.
Jake dude, you are a great guy. It's a shame that your shyness controls you like this, as a lot of people should in fact get to know you, because you are a great guy!
It seems like an hell of a job to talk to somebody you don't know, but really, when you think about it, it isn't at all. What's the worst thing that can happen?? Just use people to practise controlling your shyness

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Maybe it can help you to practise before a mirror, or practise with some of your family. Even writing down a couple of questions, and learn them by heart, can help.
Really, you're a cool dude, everybody should get to know you!